I may be biased, but I think Tris says some rather incredible things that show a heck load of insight. This is one conversation that I recorded where I captured some of this.
In it, I talk to Tris about my own lack of self-direction and life purpose, and Tris gives a great framework to help guide me to chose what to do in life (and why I slip up). It’s awesome!!
This conversation was recorded for our purposes only, but as I’ve listened to it, I realised it might help out others too. So please excuse the lack of formality, snotty noses, my baby-talk (yep, I do that sometimes… 🙂 ) and poor sound quality.
Recently, we’ve both taken to documenting things in our lives rigorously; writing about our day to day activities, conversations and insights, and audio-recording some of our conversations and arguments (cringe!). This documentation is to help us collect data on our behaviours, interactions and emotions. Maybe one day this can be used to help other people.
I had the flu and this conversation was late at night so it is very hard to hear me. Also though I don’t think I was very clear on the recording about my point.
The point was that I have yet to see anyone who chases a feeling in their lives and their relationships actually succeed in getting what they want without personal change. That personal change is often made to be less important than our “acquiring” what we want from our environment.
I suggested to Anna that the energy of “the chase” could be better used in growing in our soul’s passions. Soul passions are not just about ourselves but often include at least some of the 8 billion people we share this world with and any of the other people who have passed on to the spirit world.
That way our “purpose” is not feeling good or feeling loved. Instead it is creating in a area of life and learning that we love and subsequently helping and loving others through that process.
It also means the pain of NOT getting what we want (love, approval, freedom from fear, etc.) will come up naturally to be felt, since we are no longer putting in so much energy to NOT feel that pain.
The crux is if you want to “be happy”, the happiness will only able to be provided from how you use your own resources not from anyone else’s.